Obituary of Darlene Ingram
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With terrible grief, Carlos Ingram and his children, Anita, Jeff, and Jennie, announce the passing of their wife and mother, Darlene Ingram. At the age of 73, she lost her heroic battle against pancreatic cancer on May 8, 2021, after a miraculous and completely unexplained period of “remission” that gave us more precious months with her than we had any right to expect. We thank God and Mama for every single hour. Darlene “took a chance” on Carlos and married him on September 2, 1967, at the Ebenezer United Methodist Church, Farmersburg, Indiana. She was proud of their enduring love story and of the life they built together. Going from a couple of broke kids, raising 3 kids, to a successful retired couple traveling the USA and Europe, enjoying champagne together. She was an every-single-day kind of hero. She was a working Mom in the ’70s. No one else’s mom seemed to be doing that kind of thing, but she always provided a home-cooked meal and kept a beautiful home. She kept her kids out of trouble and put their energy to good work to help keep it that way. She signed every note she wrote with a smiley face, but that didn’t mean there wasn't a serious threat of death in it if you failed to obey. Even if you asked for it, she didn’t give advice. She didn’t have to. Her life was an example. You just had to be paying attention. Her wisdom lives on: GET OVER YOURSELF; Be kind; Forgive folks…you probably need some forgiveness yourself; You are not qualified to judge anyone; Do for yourself…someone else will probably disappoint you; You can’t quit…somebody needs you; You have no idea how very, very special you are; Love unconditionally…be humble; and Be careful what you wish for…you just might get it. If you were a kid lucky to be guided by her, you certainly carry the scar of one of her famous handprints on your thigh, but you also carry the weight of her love on your heart. She was a talented artist creating breathtaking needlework. She never kept to a pattern. She always improved them. This world is richer for the hundreds of custom, personalized, framed works of love she’s left behind. She was a member of St John Lutheran Church in Ft. Wayne, Indiana, Beautiful Savior Lutheran Church in Grove City, Ohio, Beautiful Savior Lutheran in Ft. Wayne, Ind., and Beautiful Savior Lutheran in South Windsor, Connecticut and volunteered as a church secretary. After retiring, she and Carlos took their own church with them everywhere they traveled. She loved camping with the Covered Wagon Camping Club. In addition to her husband and special guy, Carlos, at home, survivors include 3 children, Anita Ingram-Frantz (Joe), Fort Wayne, Indiana, Jeffery W. Ingram (Kristin) Melbourne, Florida and Jennie Ingram, Warsaw, Mo.; 8 grandchildren, Adrian Sewell (Lou), Kailin Bauman (Bill), Conner Sewell, Aidan Ingram (Abi), Tessa Sewell, Lily Massaro, Laila Massaro, and Erik Ingram; 4 great-grandchildren, Killian Sewell, Logan Sewell, Valencia Sewell, and Emma Labier, Mary Brown (Marv) San Marcos, Texas; and a multitude of greatly loved nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her parents, Floyd Arther Spore and Doris (Turley) Spore; a sister, Sandra Allen; brothers David Spore and Jim Allen, and many nieces, nephews, and cousins. We owe a great debt to the Benton County, Missouri Hospice. We appreciate you all, each and every one. Susie, especially, thank you so very much. Services have been delayed until a later date. She did not want folks traveling during a pandemic on her account. If you join us in the grief of being left behind, she wanted to remind you, “The beatings will commence and continue until morale improves. If you can’t get it together, we can always take a trip to the ladies' room.” Love, Darlene, Mom, Nana, Nana-Banana, Nana-Grape.